intimacy anorexia Coaching
WHAT IS INTIMACY ANOREXIA COACHING?
You've found out about the term "intimacy anorexia" and you realize it describes you - now you're asking the question, "how do I move forward to live an abundantly intimate and connected life with my spouse?"
There's several reasons why you may have defaulted to withholding behaviors either consciously or subconsciously. Maybe you never had a healthy relationship modeled to you by your parents. Maybe you have struggled with pornography or sexual addiction at one point (or now) which has numbed your heart to emotion and has caused you to withhold connection with your spouse.
Regardless of the reasons, you can start to rewire your brain to crave connection as our coaching sessions give you effective strategies to mature and grow personally and intimately with your spouse. There is hope and healing as you move forward to heal your marriage from intimacy anorexia.
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Rewiring your brain after years of decades of withholding behavior is no simple task. But, with consistent effort and commitment, you can start to retrain your brain's default from withholding to connecting. Myself, along with your new brothers in your support group, will walk alongside of you in accountability.
Those who have chosen to heal will say it's absolutely worth it and are now living abundantly connected life with their spouse.
But, don't take my word for it. Experience true recovery and healing for yourself.
YOU'RE COMMITTED TO START MAKING CHANGES FOR THE BETTER
You're ready to change. But where do you start?
The Intimacy Anorexia Recovery program will help you with the following:
Receive a structured and personalized recovery plan
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Create Boundaries & Consequences for withholding behaviors
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Rewire your "default" from IA withholding to intimate and connected
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Receive tools and healthy ways to validate her heart and feelings
Get involved with an accountability group with other men committed to heal
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Utilize specially designed exercises to build connection with your spouse
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GATHER
TOOLS & SKILLS
After years or decades of no intimacy with your spouse, you might be wondering, where do I start? Through our coaching sessions I will assign you exercises to help reignite intimacy with your spouse. Your spouse has very likely experienced wounds of her own due to the intimacy anorexic withholding. I will also give you tools to validate and hear her heart. Through consistent recovery work and accountability, you can start becoming a lover to your spouse again.
REWIRE
YOUR BRAIN
After years of withholding, it takes time, effort, and dedication to heal - but, you are capable of rewiring your brain to be a connected lover and partner for your spouse. You are capable of compassion, empathy, and genuinely desiring to connect with your wife's heart. Through the proven methods and tools you will receive during our coaching sessions, you can join thousands of other intimacy anorexics who have conquered their withholding behaviors and have embraced a connected and loving lifestyle with their wife.
SETTING BOUNDARIES
& CONSEQUENCES
Throughout our sessions, you will learn how to identify what triggers intimacy anorexia behaviors. By recognizing persistent triggers and utilizing tools on how to mitigate them, you can set boundaries and consequences around these triggers and intimacy anorexia behaviors. You will also receive a structured plan that can help you grow emotionally, spiritually, and sexually individually, which can help you be a better intimate partner in your relationship.
The Benefits of Intimacy Anorexia Coaching
INTIMACY ANOREXIA
RECOVERY
groups
You do not have to walk this journey alone. These Intimacy Anorexia Recovery Groups are working groups for intimacy anorexics who are honestly committed to the healing process. These groups include accountability calls and 12 step work.
Working groups help you actively work through the 12 steps and establish accountability measures with other men so that you can live a connected life with your spouse.
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Intimacy Anorexia Recovery Groups will focus on the process of recovery and hold you accountable for any intimacy anorexia behaviors.
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These groups are conveniently conducted via telephone.
how can I
help?
I am certified in every program offered through the American Association for Sexual Addiction Therapy (AASAT) and have received the only Intimacy Anorexia Certification offered to coaches and therapists. While I am capable of helping you through your intimacy anorexia recovery, I also have extensive training about partners of intimacy anorexics which ensures that your wife or partner's side of these issues are understood and heard. The foundation of our coaching will be based in the principles from AASAT and Dr. Doug Weiss, the foremost expert on Intimacy anorexia and a personal mentor of mine. In order to ensure the best possible experience for my clients, I meet with Dr. Weiss for weekly supervision.
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My style of coaching acknowledges the past but focuses on helping you move forward and developing a successful plan for you to create and maintain connected intimacy with your spouse. It doesn't matter where you are on your journey right now. Whether you are just starting to reach out for help or you've already started to do the work but are feeling "stuck" - I can help you on your journey to be a connected lover to your spouse.
Accountability is a key factor of my coaching style. I expect you to be honest with me about your intimacy anorexia behaviors and setbacks, and in return I can walk alongside you, guide you, and give you foundational tools and knowledge that can help you walk alongside the thousands of men who have verifiably conquered these intimacy avoidance issues and are living their lives abundantly connected to their spouse.
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My office is located at Heart to Heart Counseling Center in Colorado Springs, Colorado; however I offer telephone options for those out of the state and country.
ACCREDITATIONS & CERTIFICATIONS
